Anne Crook - counsellor
Wandering around the supermarket last weekend, I hadn’t expected to come out of the shop with a guitar in my trolley. And, I certainly didn’t expect to be blogging about my efforts to learn to play it as one of my 5-a-day Mindapples. More about Mindapples later.
As it is for
most of us, music is a big part of my life. I’ve always been envious of people
who can pick up an instrument and give us a great tune. When I saw the guitar, I said to myself,‘It’s now or never', particularly when I remembered that I had promised myself to try out new experiences as a significant birthday approaches later
this year. One week on, I can just about play Swing Low, Sweet Chariot.
I am a counsellor
and I work within the psycho-oncology team at The Christie. We offer psychological
support to patients who have been referred to us by their healthcare team.
Cancer and its treatment is a huge emotional challenge and it is a great
privilege to listen to someone tell their story and to help them make sense of
the rollercoaster ride of emotions.
Prior to
working at The Christie, I was a counsellor working with people affected by
blood cancers at a large, London teaching hospital. I loved the work but after
20 years in the frantic pace of the capital, the time came to move back to the
North West. We wanted a garden rather than a window box, easy access to proper
countryside for walking and to be closer to family. When a job came up at The
Christie (and counselling jobs in cancer are extremely scarce), the pieces fell
into place and we made the move. Having previously lived in Kenya and
Amsterdam, I hadn’t expected it to be so difficult to settle again in a new
location. We missed our friends. However, my lovely psycho-oncology colleagues
made it very easy to make new friends, despite our differences in support for rival
football teams.
Mental
health is important for each one of us but we
relationships with my colleagues but as someone who is private, it seems strange to reveal my
guitar-playing. I can imagine how much harder it
would be to talk about feeling l ow or anxious.
As a team, we are keen to make it as easy for
everyone at The Christie – patients, visitors and
staff to think and talk about mental health as it is
to talk about physical health. Mindapples are a
great way to get us thinking and talking about our
mental health.
What are
Mindapples? Well, just as we are all encouraged to eat five portions of fruit
and vegetables a day to look after our physical health, Mindapples are those
day-to-day activities that we can do to look after our mental health. When we
asked patients, visitors and staff at The Christie what they do to look after
their mental wellbeing, they told us that walking the dog, having coffee with a
friend, watching a favourite TV programme and all of the other day-to-day
things that we sometimes take for granted, made a difference to how they felt.
Research
suggests five ways to help us feel well in ourselves: Be physically active, be sociable and connect
with others, be kind and do something for someone else, be aware and take
notice of what’s around you and be open to try out new things.
I reckon
that my guitar project ticks a few of those boxes although my current act of
kindness is to practice in private. More Mindapples such as cooking for
friends, walking in the Peak District, tending my veggie patch and screaming
loudly at football on the TV all help me feel connected to myself and others.
The second
week in May is Mental Health Awareness Week. This year, the theme is Stress - are we coping? Stress is when
the pressure is too much and we feel that the demands on us seem to outweigh
our resources to cope with them. Much of my work is helping people to
rediscover that they do have the resources to cope with the challenges that
cancer brings.
We begin
Mental Health Awareness Week with Mindapples
Monday - What are your five-a-day Mindapples that you do to look after
yourself? Treat Tuesday is an
invitation to share a random act of kindness for someone else, perhaps a smile
in the corridor or a word of encouragement. Wake
UP Wednesday reminds us that physical activity is always good, whether that
be some gardening, a walk or a dance. Therapy
Thursday invites us to take notice of what is around us and to be present in
the ‘here and now’ – stop for a moment and notice the buds on the trees. We complete
the week on ‘Friendly Friday’. We hope
that lots of people will visit our display in Oak Road and post a thank you for
a person, an experience or an activity that has helped their sense of wellbeing.
Come and
visit our display in Oak Road on Monday 14th May and tell us about
your own five-a-day Mindapples. If I’m feeling brave, I’ll play you a song!